So I just slapped the test rig on my D800, still with the AF-S DX 35mm f/1.8G lens, and indeed pin 8 is being driven.
Pin 8 is definitely 90deg out of phase to pin 5, and the direction of phase shift determines direction of the AF motor.
Same as before with pin 5 (and pin 8) "going dark" in M mode, and coming alive only in M/A mode.
Here's how they look on the 'scope:
.. and the logic analyzer:
So I guess the lower-end cameras only get the amount, but the higher-end cams also get feedback on direction.
This signal is almost certainly generated by the lens, though I wonder why it wouldn't emit the signal anyway on the D5100 if that's the case? Maybe because the D800 sends 02 1B in response to command 0x40, whereas the D5100 sends 02 1A...
Hmmm
